Mothers and Reconnection

"Go to your room! I don't want to see your face anymore!" "You've gone too far! Stop already!" "Enough, I can't anymore, this is unbearable." "You've crossed the line!"

Mothers, sometimes it sounds exactly like that. And it happens. These are anonymous quotes from loving, caring mothers. Who are also human. And also angry. And also hurt. And also consumed by guilt about all of it?

You are a loving mother even when you spoke that way. The connection? It's always possible anew. Your child expects you to reconnect with them, to explain what happened there, to allow learning how to reconnect and continue loving even after a crisis in the relationship. This is a lifelong journey — interpersonal relationships. Including the relationship between you and your child.

The possibility for love, acceptance, listening, giving... so many possibilities are there. Let's ease up on the criticism and blame, just for a moment. What can become possible in that moment? What can open up?

Look into your child's eyes. After the storm has passed. Look into your own eyes in the mirror. Look. What can open up? Shall we find out?