Writings

May 13, 2023

Learning with Leslie Greenberg

One of the most beneficial ways for me to regulate is through listening to Leslie Greenberg. When reality gets heavy — Leslie Greenberg!

October 22, 2022

Alone. Loneliness.

Again and again, there are situations where you are not alone — yet you feel loneliness. It may originate from a primary inner experience, an experience from the past.

September 28, 2022

ADHD, Miss-Happens, and Self-Compassion — How Can They Coexist?

Living with ADHD means a higher frequency of slip-ups, forgetfulness, and mishaps — not from lack of talent, but because the odds are simply higher. The real question is: how do we hold ourselves through it all?

April 22, 2022

Rest Is a Muscle Worth Developing

Like cardiovascular endurance, rest relies on several muscles working together — and their combined effort is what makes true rest possible.

February 2, 2022

Farewell from Therapy

In a departure from my usual practice, I'll share about a therapy that ended this week. Not the details — that is private. But the transformations are moving.

January 13, 2022

Chaos

Chaos blooms alongside uncertainty and overwhelm. Anxiety rises and with it, emotional distress. Here are four recommendations that can help.

December 25, 2020

Imagination Work in Therapy

I love incorporating imagination work with those who are open to it. It's a playful space that sometimes takes time to reach — especially if that space wasn't given legitimacy in childhood.

December 21, 2020

You Are Okay Exactly As You Are

In my room, you are okay exactly as you are. Paradoxically, this supports change beautifully.

July 30, 2020

Why Therapy Is Actually Chemistry

Connection is chemistry. Much of therapy is the relationship between you and me.

June 24, 2020

Body and Soul

The body ages. We don't pay attention and suddenly a small blow stays with us longer. Experiences accumulate like suitcases.

May 14, 2020

When Emotions Throw a Tantrum

Sometimes emotions throw a tantrum — a feeling so strong it leads to screaming, intense crying, or harming ourselves or our close relationships.

April 23, 2020

Why Therapy Is Actually Neurobiology

Simply because our experience is stored in the brain. Even the fact that the body remembers is a product of sensory memory preserved in neural connections.

March 27, 2020

Why Therapy Is Actually Physics

Two bodies are attracted to each other. The distances between them create a dynamic of connection and relating.

March 12, 2020

Time

I bought a quiet clock to replace the ticking one in the clinic. Its ticking reminded us that time passes, and that time is borrowed.

March 1, 2020

Compassion and Choices

Sometimes it's hard to make a choice. The critical voice whispers one thing, the playful voice another, and the angry voice shouts inside you.

November 29, 2019

How Long Does Therapy Take?

A question usually asked at the beginning of the process. The short answer: there's always work to be done. Therapy is both a right and a privilege.

August 9, 2019

Mothers and Reconnection

"Go to your room! I don't want to see your face anymore!" Mothers, sometimes it sounds exactly like that. And it happens. These are quotes from loving, caring mothers.

May 24, 2019

Sadness and Light

There are days when the sadness inside is like a pool as deep as the Dead Sea. It seems like everything has slowed to a standstill.

April 7, 2019

Ostriches, Group Dynamics, and ADHD

Ostriches live in small groups. If there were an ostrich with ADHD, it would probably say: "I never know when it's my turn to speak, so I just don't participate."

February 14, 2019

The Containment Vessel

The containment vessel is our ability to hold others — and essentially ourselves — so that we have the resources for what is outside us as well.

February 3, 2019

Intergenerational Patterns

Intergenerational transmission is like a thick tree. Beside it another tree, and behind it yet another. Their branches are intertwined.

January 10, 2019

Where Am I?

Where do I begin? Where do I end? What do I want? The questions children ask within their separation process are also an opportunity to meet your own journey.

December 31, 2018

Being in Gratitude

Being grateful for the ground that supports, that allows tension to be released. For the stars shining from above. For the chair you came to sit on.

December 5, 2018

What Does Anger Tell?

The angry child within us can awaken when a basic need goes unmet. The intensity is connected to how much we've pushed off meeting that need.